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A Few Words About Nora Ephron

June 26, 2012

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Yesterday I was thinking about Nora Ephron.

Nora Ephron is one of my heroes. She came to mind because I have been thinking about screenwriting, thinking about my favorite movies, thinking about When Harry Met Sally. I am preparing to write my first screenplay and reading a screenwriting book that I took out from the library.

As I lay in bed last night, before I dozed off, I remember thinking how inspiring Ephron is to me. When Harry Met Sally is my favorite movie of all time and has been since 2006. It has appeared in all of the major moments of my life.

When Harry Met Sally is the reason I decided to go to Middlebury College, in Vermont. In April of 2006, on a chilly Easter weekend, I had an overnight visit at Middlebury College. I stayed in Allen with two lovely freshmen girls who split me equally between them. At night, one of the girls gathered her friends and their prospies and we all decided to watch a movie in the Allen lounge. It was When Harry Met Sally.

I loved the movie from its opening lines. Looking back, when I had to make my decision, as odd or illogical as it may seem, I had a good feeling about Middlebury because I had a good feeling about When Harry Met Sally.

I’ve watched it with every boyfriend and best friend I’ve had. You might say it is a test of sorts, Later, the movie’s scenes of New York City stirred my desire to move here. And it also inspired the name of my blog, When Nutmeg Met Basil, named in homage to the great film, whose title I feel is one of the best. It is utterly memorable and evocative in its innocent simplicity.

Since that fateful first viewing, more than 6 months have never elapsed when I have not seen the movie. If you do the math, that means I’ve seen it all twelve times: the “I’ll have what she’s having” (the line delivered perfectly in the first take by director Rob Reiner’s mother); the evolution of curly hair from the seventies to the nineties; the “stupid, garage sale, wagon wheel coffee table”; “She’s supposed to be his rebound girl! She’s not supposed to be the one!,” Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal walking in the fall outside the American Museum of Natural History, and inside the Egyptian exhibit at the Met; “Men and women can never be friends”; “When you realize that you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start right now!”

It never gets old.

There is something ephemeral about the movie; I can’t put my finger on it, even though I try each time I watch it. Whether it is the classic one-liners that are actually surprisingly accurate jewels of relationship wisdom; the female lead who comes to NYC to start her career but finds a relationship far more difficult to secure, and with whom we all can identify; or the scenes of New York in fall, New York at Christmas, and New York in springtime, I cannot say.

All I know is that Nora Ephron nailed it.

Nora Ephron

Image via WaPo

She also wrote “You’ve Got Mail” and “Julie and Julia,” two other excellent films.

I cried when I read, a few moments ago, that she had passed away. I wasn’t expecting it. She was so young.

She died from “complications from the blood disorder myelodysplasia, which was diagnosed six years ago,” according to the Washington Post, at a hospital in New York. She was 71. Check out the story there for an in-depth obituary.

The beautiful thing is that for me and millions of other fans, though Ephron is gone, her work will live on in our minds. I know that When Harry Met Sally is never far from mine.

*Ephron’s essay, which inspired the title of this post, is here

Somers Quilt Show 2012 Dazzles With Color

May 22, 2012

I had an exquisite excursion into Westchester several weeks ago, complete with Connecticut friends, my Mom, and a burly, greasy waiter in a dark restaurant.

Here is an assortment of the colorful, intricate, breathtaking quilts we saw. Some are traditional, some innovative, some plain wacky.


The Somers quilt show is an annual gathering of quilt enthusiasts, and their creations, in a high school in Somers, New York.

Green background quilt at Somers Quilt Show 2012

I really wanted to have a photo taken with my mom, but we were so overwhelmed with the incredible amount and variety of beautiful quilts filling the gymnasium and the halls of John F. Kennedy High School in Somers, NY, that we did not even have a chance until we walked out of the show…almost. At the entryway to the show, a vendor was showcasing gorgeous quilts, like the one in the photo below, for sale. When he overheard our conversation he generously offered to allow us to take a picture in front of his quilt, which you see below (along with the “no photography please” sign.)

This vendor is Richard Fries of the Bellwether Dry Goods Company. I loved his quilts.

The quilt pictured above is one of my favorites from the show. It reminds me of a beautifully illustrated children’s book.

Update: The quilt show is actually called the Northern Star Quilt Show. Thanks Mom!

Sunwashed Purple Iris in the Northwest Bronx

May 8, 2012

It may happen one day that you are walking down a quiet street in the northwest Bronx when you pass a field of irises. They are blooming in a churchyard, which seems so wonderfully quaint after a week of subterranean voyages in dirty and wet public transport vehicles in New York City.

Purple and Yellow Iris Blooming In The Bronx in late April 2012

The iris is kind of a funny-looking flower. But it’s breathtaking for precisely that reason.

Field of Purple and Yellow Iris blooming in the Northwest Bronx

I am shocked into wakefulness by the field of irises. Later on that same sunny spring walk, a friendly gentleman invites me into his backyard and then into his home. Am I more surprised by his spontaneous hospitality or by his charming country residence– a little splash of Westchester across from red-brick apartment buildings in Kingsbridge?

He proudly shows me his lawn, a perfect green rectangle that stretches between a recycled brick walkway and a gravel border in his backyard. “Bend down and touch it,” he urges me. It’s fake. He laughs.

His house is enormous by New York City standards, as though someone picked up a single-family home from the suburbs and air-lifted it onto this sweet corner. Inside, his wife is chatting on the telephone, less pleased to welcome strange guests into her Saturday afternoon than her husband is.

After a long chat, I leave him behind, promising to drop by again soon.

Sunwashed Purple Iris in Kingsbridge, Bronx, New York

The Clown of God

May 3, 2012
Astoria bound N train makes the classic approach to Queensboro Plaza, view of Manhattan skyline behind

Image via redoveryellow.com

We are on the N Train at 7:11 P.M. on a clear Wednesday evening.

We emerge from the tunnel beneath the bridge at 59th street and swing toward Queensboro Plaza. The train is quiet, nearly empty at this time. Few people are standing. The weeknight rush is over.

At Queensboro Plaza we meet the seven train, that indefatigable midtown shuttle with its sights set far beyond Grand Central terminal toward great green swaths of New York City’s largest borough. The Jackson Heights, Woodside, Flushing bound seven train. Is it a contradiction that the train’s placard indicates its end points as “Times Square, Manhattan” and “Main Street, Flushing”? They are the ends of two opposite universes.

We are engrossed in our smartphones. We are lifting our purchases out of three or four different shopping bags. What a beautiful newborn’s flowered spring dress. We are dozing. We are texting Asian characters. We are engrossed in a novel or a self-help tome. We are hunched over, our eyes are puffy, we are sagging, we are sleep-deprived, we are exhausted. Another workday in Manhattan has come and gone.

As the train curves away from Queensboro Plaza, the skyline recedes and we arch our necks to see the sunset glinting off of midtown highrises, the Empire State Building, and the Chrysler Building. Across the river, Manhattan is a fortress from which we retreat on our quiet N train.

And then–

A dash of sound. A splash of music. An energetic injection. We all turn our heads except the round banker in her bright red dress.

None of us noticed him when he boarded the train, not even when he placed an electric keyboard on the floor and squatted down over it. Now we can see only the top of his head, a black circle that doesn’t move, hovering above a green army coat and the fingers. His hands are wide and large with long fingers. As the music goes on, his fingers are all we can see, look at, or think about.

We are transfixed, but not all of us obviously so. The waifish young woman in black printed tights and grey ballet flats, worn under a dress and coat best described as nondescript, is the most self-consciously captivated. She looks up from her tablet reader as soon as the music begins, and looks away almost as quickly. But she soon glances back at the crouching musician, her face an open display of curiousity and fear, beneath her limp, dirty brown, once blondish hair. She eventually lapses into staring straight ahead attentively, neither at the musician nor at her tablet.

The dozing Asian woman in a car coat and narrow, tight grey pants continues dozing. The overweight black woman hunched over the metal poles at the end of the bench does not look. The texter continues texting, and the Indian woman with all of her purchases mounded in front of her continues speaking rapidly on her cell phone. The red banker scrunches up her pert nose behind black and green plastic framed glasses and scrolls aggressively on her iPhone.

But a young woman in black pants and a black jacket can’t help smiling compulsively, even as her cheek muscles do a funny little dance to contort herself back into the New York grimace. And a tall young man with lots of brown hair, wearing light-colored 90’s jeans and a black leather jacket, is bopping his head up and down, tapping his knees with his hand. He’s reaching into his pocket to pull out a few crumpled singles.

The music continues. We arrive at 39th Avenue. The doors open and close. No one from our end of the car exits. No one enters. Our musician is pounding the keys with fiery passion, then tickling our ears with fast and light notes. His hands are everpresent. Everywhere.

At 36th Avenue, the dozing Asian woman has awoken and watches the scene intently. The hunched-over black woman has turned her gaze toward our musician, and the 90’s pants man has dug into his jeans pocket a second time, emerging with a few more crumpled one dollar bills to join those he holds already in his fist. An unobtrusive German-looking fellow with wire-rimmed spectacles, who had been assiduously reading the Wall Street Journal, observes with a faint trace of a smile flickering around his lips. The tablet reader has given up her internal battle. She watches with unguarded interest.

We approach Broadway and the piece reaches its climax. A thrilling mountain peak of song. A crash. Then a few birds’ chirping, light, sweet, and free.

It is over.

The first to break into applause is the 90’s jeans man, our musician’s number one supporter from the beginning. But almost as quickly, the red banker looks up from her iPhone with astonishing alacrity. She looks over at our musician with a bright, encouraging smile, which lifts her face out of the heavy load of care it had worn. Suddenly, shockingly, she is beautiful. We are all clapping, smiling, even the sleeping woman, even the spectacled man.

And we all open our wallets, reach into our purse or pants pockets, and prepare to hand over bills to our musician.

He rises quickly from the keyboard, acknowledging the applause with a quiet, sheepish smile. In one deft motion he lifts the keyboard off of the floor and gathers himself. He brings out a small tin cup with a handle, which a Shakespearean actor might pretend to drink ale from onstage. Eager bills are curled and folded and inserted into the tiny cup.

Physically, he bears resemblance to Tin-tin or Giovanni from Tomie DePaola’s The Clown of God. His hair is shaggy, falls over his eyes. His skin is vaguely tanned and freckled. His wide face is open, his eyes unreadable, calm, quiet. He says nothing as he walks past us, tin in hand, in an agressive teenage boy’s gait.

But in us, he stirs an uncommon, hardly recognizable sentiment.

We smile.

The Clown of God, an old folk tale of a poor but exceptional juggler, turned into a classic illustrated children's book by celebrated children's book author/illustrator Tomie DePaola

Sakura Matsuri at the Brooklyn Botanical Gardens

May 1, 2012

There are times that you witness great beauty equipped with only your iPhone.

In my experience, as long as the sun is brightly shining, you have nothing to fear. Snap away with your iPhone and you can expect clear, well-defined photos with a little bit of automatic depth-of-field play.

Note that I took the photos below with an iPhone 3GS–not even the most advanced iPhone camera on the market.

Pink Japanese Tree Peony At Brooklyn Botanical Gardens

Thanks to my roommate Sam, I learned that this past weekend was the Sakura Matsuri Festival at the Brooklyn Botanic Gardens. Joseph and I went there a bit late on Sunday afternoon, but when we arrived the sun was still shining and we had plenty of time to explore the gorgeous gardens. I’m not sure we saw any cherry blossoms but we walked around as much as we could, and we enjoyed a path through overflowing lilacs and fields of bluebells.

Purple Lilac at Brooklyn Botanical Gardens

Looking outside today, it’s hard to believe that it’s actually May Day. These photographs will constitute my own little celebration of spring.Purple Lilac Blossom iPhone 3GS Photo

The peony collection wasn’t blooming yet, but the Japanese tree peonies were. Some were arch and pink like the first photo, above; others were shy and demure young ladies, like the blossom below.Japanese Tree Peony at Brookyn Botanic Gardens photo by Beth Connolly

How To Turn A Bad Day Into A Good Day

April 28, 2012
Image Courtesy of LI Daily Photo

Image Courtesy of LI Daily Photo

Exit your office, your elevator, your building, your block.

Have a pleasant conversation as the elevator descends with a man wearing jeans and a maroon button-down shirt. His hair is gray but plentiful and the skin on his face is slightly pockmarked. You stare at him a moment too long, look away, and stare again. Because he reminds you of someone. But who? Not someone you know. A sitcom character.

So he starts a conversation about the weather. You complain that it is too cold. He says it’s a fall day in spring.

Walk through the revolving doors and rush just a little so you don’t have to wait for the next compartment to open up. Emerge into the sunlight and realize, it is a fall day. The maroon-shirted man cordially bids you good day and button up against the cold and you both walk out of the building in the same direction and you think you’ll never get used to Manhattan Manners. But you’ve been here long enough that it doesn’t seem too strange.

You realize he reminds you of the comic-book store guy from the Big Bang Theory and you’re glad you didn’t bring that up with him because it might not be a flattering comparison. Actually, it definitely would not be.

Wander back and forth. 34th to 35th, make a left on 35th, then come back down, past the entrance to work, cross 7th Ave, walk back up 7th ave. Enter Au Bon Pain and order a coffee. Sit down on a stool in front of an olive green Formica countertop.

Stare at the passersby. Look at the empty bench in front of the window.

As you exit, breathe deeply and look at the tiny trees with their tiny leaves planted on 7th Ave. Remember two things:

1. The nerve behind your eyeball is the closest to your brain. Put your eyes where you want your focus to be.

2. Breathing through your nose, filling your lungs deeply, triggers a sense of calm relaxation.

Look at the leaves and feel their forgiveness. Look at the rooftops and know their freedom. Look at the blue sky and marvel that even in New York, it looks so clean.

Miami

April 23, 2012

It’s been almost a month since my trip to Miami to visit my roommate Andrew along with our friends Ann and Daniela who live in the apartment below us. I finally downloaded my camera and I was going to create a Facebook album but then I realized I should just do a blog post photo album.

Our first day was amazing. It had just started to warm up in New York, and ironically on Thursday, March 15, when I arrived, Miami threatened intermittent rain showers. But that just made it more exciting. We stopped at a deli on our way home from the airport and enjoyed a breakfast of an enormous plate of challah french toast and a giant chef’s salad.

That afternoon, we boarded the longed-for jetski and careened over the waves in the bay that is practically Andrew’s backyard.

Here are some photos from that adventure:

ImageWe stopped for lunch at a tiny, uninhabited island directly across the bay from Andrew’s house. As we anchored the jetski and explored the palm trees on the island, we felt that we were in Lord of the Flies.

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The jetski can hold three people at a time, but with all of the food we were bringing over for our picnic, we thought it safer to do two at a time. So Andrew dropped me off at the island first and I waded ashore.

Then Andrew tied the jetski to a palm tree, so that it wouldn’t float off in the bay and leave us stranded!

A narrow strip of land connected our island to another one next to it.

We walked as far as we could, but Andrew warned us that with the rising tide, we might lose our footing on the way back.

On the way there, we found some interesting wildlife.

I’m not sure what these guys are, but Ann and Andrew found them lying on the shore.

And I found this crazy guy!

Here’s a view of our island. You can even see the jetski docked there.

It was a bit of a rainy day, but that was the only day it rained of the trip!

Frank Sinatra’s Irish Connection

April 20, 2012


No singer defined my childhood more than Frank Sinatra.

Before I can remember knowing who he was or what era he belonged to, before I can remember the creeping need to learn Italian, that language that stuck on my teeth from the moment I heard Domenico Modugno’s  ‘Volare,’ I knew the words to “Love and Marriage,” “Night and Day,” and “The Lady is a Tramp.” (I never really understood why the lady was a tramp, though.)

I still remember when my dad told me that Frank Sinatra had passed away. I was crushed and I cried. I don’t remember any other celebrity death ever affecting me in any way at all. Just Frank’s.

Sinatra was the soundtrack of my childhood. I even made a music video with one of my friends to “You Make Me Feel So Young.”

As a proud Irish girl with not a drop of Italian blood in me, I was kind of thrilled to read about Sinatra’s Irish connection in Amore: The Story of Italian American Song, by Mark Rotella.

Sinatra was not a typical Southern Italian immigrant. His dad was Sicilian (from Agrigento), but his mom Dolly was from Genova. As is typical, the parents’ families did not get along very well. When they relocated to America, Sinatra’s dad wanted to make his living as a fighter, so he changed his name to O’Brien to be taken more seriously. Sinatra’s mom then became Dolly O’Brien, and with her Irish name and her Northern looks, she easily befriended Irish politicians and brought them Italian votes. Being perceived as Irish was very helpful, since the Irish community was much more established in New York at the time.

Rotella’s book has chapters on all of the major Italian-American singers and I’m looking forward to learning more about Dean Martin, Louis Prima, Vic Damone, and all the rest.

Baciami Ancora, Jovanotti

March 29, 2012

Scenes of Italy conjure memories.

Time to Post Again: Edith Wharton, Library Fines, and the Compelling Urgency of Metaphors

March 23, 2012
Red White & Blue

I'm looking so patriotic today! This mug is from the Cat in the Hat ride at Universal Studios Islands of Adventure.

It’s been a long while, and it’s time to bring my blog out of hibernation. In some ways I feel that my blog–its name, its content, its posts–represents a sweet and innocent version of me that got lost somewhere between the Bronx and Manhattan. But days in New York City–especially now that it is spring–are comprised of so many moments, like the many facets of a diamond. So many moments that it’s difficult to look at any one too closely, or to imagine that, apart from its neighbors, it would be worth anything at all.

Wait, no scratch that. It makes sense in the context of the whole diamond metaphor but not in the context of what I’m trying to mean. Each moment actually is sparkling, but also too easy to forget. I sort of got carried away in it the way that Edith Wharton does. I’m reading The Age of Innocence right now, which is as engrossing as The House of Mirth–a quick read, in other words. But if you read it quickly you miss out on the incredible attention to detail in her language. You could spend 15 minutes just on one paragraph, and I think, if I were an English teacher, I would assign my students to do a close reading of one paragraph in each chapter. But sometimes, honestly, she gets so carried away that you have no idea what she means. 

Now that I paid off my New York Public Library fines in January (after accumulating through several months, they totaled $66 and change), I resolved to make full use of the Mid-Manhattan branch on Fifth Avenue, a brief jaunt through Bryant Park from my office. The Mid-Manhattan branch is large and they have under-utilized self-checkout kiosks which eliminate the need to ever wait in line to check out. It struck me as dirty and depressing (“dingy,” Edith Wharton would call it), when I first ventured inside, but they have some interesting book displays (I’ve been checking Oprah’s shelf and the Classics upstairs) to choose from if you are browsing.

Otherwise, their pick-up-your-own-hold system is efficient as long as you know to head straight to the back room. Plus, you can renew books via the iPhone app, a feature that I am taking full advantage of in order to avoid writing another $66 check. A few months back, I heard that the NYPL plans to close the Mid-Manhattan branch entirely, sell the property (including office space above the lending library), and convert the huge historic building across the street into the lending library. What a brilliant plan! And, with my donation of $66 this calendar year, I can proudly say that I am one of the sponsors of the million-dollar project. Perhaps they will dedicate a shelf (or the return counter) to me when the new library opens.

Here’s to spring!